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Your Perfect Date?

Ian Coburn — Mon, 31 May 2010 17:54:11 +0000

This question came up the other night at a bbq party. It was pretty interesting; there were a lot of complicated answers and dissecting of both dating and the question. People didn’t really seem to know what made the perfect date for them. Perhaps that is insight into why relationships and dating can become so unnecessarily complicated. I thought about the question and realized very quickly the answer, at least for me. The perfect date? When you don’t want it to end. (When I say that, I mean when neither of you wants it to end.) Remember, date simple. Think simple. Don’t make things so complicated. Dating is not a math problem; it’s simply getting to know someone else while determining if they are worth getting to know even better and sharing more of yourself with. It’s that simple. Enjoy!

The Opposite of Love isn’t Hate

Ian Coburn — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 20:16:31 +0000

I heard something very astute the other day–the opposite of love isn’t hate; it’s fear. Think about this; it is very true. When you avoid someone because you don’t want to like them and are afraid it could go somewhere and you don’t want to risk getting hurt again or just shut down and don’t put yourself out there at all. You are giving in to fear, the opposite of love. Don’t do this because then you are doing something really bad… you aren’t living; you’re just taking up space. You can’t be afraid to be hurt and there aren’t guarantees. At the least, you’ll always have great memories; at the most, you’ll have a great, life-long relationship.

Interview for My6Secret

Ian Coburn — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 18:55:42 +0000

This is an interview I did for a site called My6Secrets. It’s my six tips for a healthier sex and relationship life. (They interview experts and people for their six tips for better sex and relationships.)

How We Give People Power Over Aspects of Our Life in Which They Don’t Exist

Ian Coburn — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 16:41:58 +0000